Love and Pain: Why Men Sometimes Hurt the Ones They Love

As a man, I never thought I’d find myself asking this question: “Why do we hurt the women we love?”

I’ve made mistakes, caused pain, and felt regret.

But I’ve also struggled to understand why it happens — why do men, myself included, end up hurting the very people we claim to love?

It’s not an excuse, but sometimes we don’t even know we’re doing it until it’s too late.

In my relationships, I often found myself stuck in patterns that led to hurt and confusion.

The worst part? I didn’t mean to cause pain.

This is my attempt to understand why we sometimes do the very thing we swear we’d never do — hurt the women we love.

Emotional Immaturity

I’ll admit it — emotional immaturity has been a big part of why I’ve hurt women in my past.

When I was younger, I didn’t have the tools to handle complex emotions, and that immaturity showed up in my relationships.

I’d get frustrated during arguments, unable to process my feelings, so I’d lash out.

Looking back, I realize that many of the hurtful things I said were more about my inability to handle my emotions. I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone, but…