Why is it Bad to set people up? : What No One Tells You

I’ll start with this: setting people up might sound harmless, even helpful. But I’ve learned the hard way — it’s risky business. Let me walk you through it.When you set people up, you’re playing matchmaker.

You think two people would be perfect together. So, you introduce them.

It sounds simple, right?

But it’s not.

Relationships are complicated. People are even more complicated.

Why Do We Set People Up?

I used to believe I was doing people a favor. “They’ll thank me later,” I thought.

I wanted to see my friends happy. I wanted to feel like I made a difference.

But here’s the thing — intentions don’t always match results.

How It Went Wrong

A few years ago, I set my friend Emma up with my coworker James.

Emma was funny, sweet, and loved movies. James loved movies too. I thought, “Perfect match!”

I introduced them at a dinner party. They hit it off immediately. They started dating, and for a few months, it seemed like I had done something great.

Then it fell apart.