Why Good People Cheat: Understanding the Psychology of Affairs

I never thought I’d find myself writing about this. But here we are.Cheating isn’t something reserved for villains or people with no morals. Sometimes, good people cheat. It’s uncomfortable to say, but it’s true. Let’s break down why it happens — step by step — and how understanding the psychology behind affairs can give us clarity.

Cheating Starts With Emotional Distance

It’s rarely just about the physical. Most affairs begin because there’s a gap in the relationship. I’ve seen friends go through it. They start feeling unseen, unheard, or unappreciated. One day, they meet someone who listens or pays attention.

“It’s like I came alive again,” one friend told me. They weren’t looking to cheat, but the connection felt like a lifeline. It’s not an excuse, but it’s an insight.

Research Backs This Up

Studies show emotional dissatisfaction is a top reason people stray. According to a 2018 study published in Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 47% of those who cheated said it was because of emotional disconnect. Think about that. Nearly half.

The Lure of Novelty

Here’s the kicker: novelty is addictive. Our brains love it. When things feel…