Why Do Midlife Crisis Husbands Blame Their Wives? : Taking the Fall

“Why is everything suddenly my fault?” That’s the question Eva kept asking myself during her husband’s midlife crisis. It felt like every argument, every disappointment, somehow circled back to her.

At first, Eva thought she was imagining it. Maybe she was overthinking. But then it became a pattern. Every time he was frustrated or unhappy, the blame landed squarely on her shoulders.

If you’re experiencing this, I want you to know you’re not alone.

Let’s talk about why this happens and what you can do.

What Is a Midlife Crisis?

A midlife crisis isn’t just a cliché about red sports cars or quitting jobs to backpack through Europe.

It’s a deep emotional upheaval, often driven by feelings of regret, fear, or loss of purpose.

For men, it usually hits between 40 and 55. Research shows that nearly 10–20% of adults experience a midlife crisis, and men are often more prone to outwardly blaming others.

Why Wives Become the Target

When men hit this stage, they’re often grappling with:

• Regrets: Choices they didn’t make. Careers they didn’t chase. Adventures they never had.