Why I Wish I Waited: A Personal Story on Sexual Restraint

Why I Regret Not Practicing Sexual Restraint Before Marriage

“Why didn’t I wait?” That’s the question I’ve asked myself countless times. Not because of religious beliefs or societal norms but because of the challenges I faced later in my marriage. Hindsight, as they say, is 20/20.

When I walked into marriage, I thought my past experiences would make me more prepared. Instead, I discovered they came with emotional baggage I wasn’t ready for.

The Misconception of Sexual Freedom

In my twenties, I believed the lie that “the more, the better.” I thought sexual freedom meant empowerment.

Friends would say things like, “You’re young; live a little!” And I listened.

I treated relationships as casual, with intimacy as a low-stakes game. It didn’t seem harmful then. Everyone else seemed to be doing it. But what I didn’t realize was how much of myself I was giving away each time.

“Sex isn’t just physical. It’s emotional, mental, and even spiritual.”

Looking back, I see how those moments weren’t as carefree as I thought. I didn’t think about the emotional ties I was forming — or the ones I was breaking.

When I got married, I wanted it to be a fresh start. A clean slate. But I quickly learned that my past wasn’t so easily erased.