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Is the age-old adage “Once a Cheater always a Cheater”, true?

Stanley Parker
3 min readDec 1, 2024

“Once a cheater, always a cheater.” We’ve all heard it. It’s a phrase that sticks like gum on a shoe. But is it true? Let me tell you my story and what I’ve learned from it. You might see things differently by the end.

Once a Cheater always a Cheater

My Personal Experience

Years ago, I was in a serious relationship. We had everything — or so I thought. Then, one day, I found out she cheated. Not just once. Multiple times.

Each time, she promised it wouldn’t happen again. But it did. Over and over.

I asked myself, “Can people really change?” I wanted to believe her. But the pattern was clear. She wasn’t ready to stop. That’s when I realized something: change only happens when someone truly wants it. Not because they’re caught. Not because they’re sorry.

What the Experts Say

Psychologists and relationship experts are split on this.

Studies show that adults who cheat once are three times more likely to cheat again compared to those who haven’t.

Patterns are hard to break. Habits become part of who we are if we let them.

But here’s the catch: not everyone who cheats will cheat again.

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Stanley Parker
Stanley Parker

Written by Stanley Parker

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