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Don’t Be Fooled: How to Identify If He’s Just Pretending to Love You
Is he pretending to love you? That’s a tough question, but it’s one many women face. Let’s talk about the signs that could help you figure it out.
Sometimes, love isn’t real — it’s a mask. A man might say the right things, but his actions may not match up. Here’s how you can spot the difference.
1. His Actions Don’t Match His Words
Words are easy. Actions take effort.
If he says, “I care about you,” but doesn’t show up when you need him, that’s a red flag. Love isn’t just about what someone says; it’s about what they do consistently.
For example, if he promises to call but rarely does, what does that tell you? Real love follows through.
Key takeaway: If his behavior feels off, trust your gut.
2. He’s Always Distracted
When you’re together, does he give you his full attention?
A man pretending to love you might constantly check his phone or seem uninterested. Real love values presence.
Think of this: You’re telling him about your day, but he’s scrolling on Instagram. That’s not love — that’s convenience.
