You Broke Their Heart — Now What? : How to Help your Spouse Heal from your Affair

I never thought I’d be the villain in someone else’s story. But there I was — watching the person I loved unravel because of what I had done.

If you’ve had an affair, you know the aftermath isn’t just messy. It’s brutal. The person you vowed to protect now sees you as the source of their deepest pain.

The home you built together feels like it’s crumbling.

And you? You’re left wondering if you can ever fix what’s been broken.

The truth is, healing from betrayal isn’t just about saying, “I’m sorry.” It’s not even about proving you’ll never do it again.

It’s about helping the person you hurt feel safe again — and that is going to take more than time.

It’s going to take work.

Real, uncomfortable, ego-shattering work.

Accept That You Don’t Get to Control the Timeline

You may want to fast-track the healing process.

You may want your spouse to stop crying, stop withdrawing, stop looking at you like you’re a stranger.

But healing isn’t linear, and it’s definitely not on your schedule.