From Lost to Found: How to Find Yourself After a Breakup

Breakups suck. Let’s get that out of the way first. I’ve been there, sitting in the rubble of what once was, asking myself, Who am I without this person? If you’re reading this, chances are you’re asking the same thing.

I’ll be honest: finding yourself after a breakup is messy. But it’s also a chance to rebuild — not just your heart, but you.

Here’s how I did it and how you can, too.

Face the Pain Head-On

There’s no shortcut here. Avoiding the hurt only delays the healing.

I used to try everything — distractions, binge-watching shows, scrolling social media. None of it worked.

One night, my friend said, “Feel it. Sit with the pain. Let it out.”

So, I did. I cried — ugly cried. I wrote down everything I was feeling. Anger, sadness, confusion. It was exhausting, but freeing.

Studies show that documenting your emotions can help you process them faster. Grab a notebook and just let it flow.

Rediscover What Makes You Happy

Breakups can leave you feeling hollow, like you’ve lost a part of yourself. That’s how I felt. My days revolved around my ex. Suddenly, I had all this empty time.

I asked myself, What did I love before this relationship?