Why the Idea of a “Free Use Relationship” Tempts Me but Scares Me Too

When I first heard the term “Free Use relationship,” I wasn’t sure what to think. It’s a type of relationship where one partner can initiate intimate activities with the other at any time, with full consent already given.

The idea intrigued me, but the more I thought about it, the more complex it seemed. I found myself caught between temptation and fear.

The thought of total sexual freedom, with no need to ask for consent each time, felt liberating in theory. Yet, the fear that came along with it was hard to ignore. It made me wonder: why do I feel pulled toward this kind of arrangement but also afraid at the same time?

In this post, I’ll unpack my thoughts, share personal experiences, and explore what’s driving this internal conflict.

The Allure of Freedom and Control

One of the main reasons I’m drawn to a free use relationship is the idea of freedom.

In traditional relationships, intimacy can sometimes feel like a routine or a negotiation.

You wait for the right moment, check in with your partner, and make sure they’re in the mood. The concept of having all that pre-approved seems thrilling.