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The Truth About Commitment-Phobes: Signs, Stories, and What to Do
Commitment-phobia isn’t just about dodging serious relationships. It’s more than that. It’s the fear of emotional responsibility. People like this struggle to connect in ways that last.
This doesn’t mean they’re bad people. Most times, they don’t even realize what’s happening. They’ve got their own reasons — bad past relationships, fear of losing freedom, or even low self-esteem.
Here’s the thing: you can’t “fix” them. But you can spot the signs and protect yourself.
1. They Love the Chase but Hate the Catch
A commitment-phobe enjoys the thrill of pursuit. They’ll make grand gestures, text nonstop, and plan amazing dates. It feels exciting, almost like a dream.
But once things start getting serious, they’ll pull back. It’s like they can’t handle what they were chasing all along.
Example:
You’ve been dating for a few months. Suddenly, they stop answering texts or take days to respond.
When you ask what’s going on, they say they’re “busy” or “figuring things out.”
That’s a red flag.
