Guide Your Journey : The 5 Best Books on Ethical Non-Monogamy

When I first heard about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), I was skeptical. It felt counterintuitive to everything I thought I knew about love and relationships. But curiosity got the better of me, and I dove headfirst into books to understand what this really meant. I didn’t just want theory — I wanted insight from people who had lived it.

Here are five books that changed my perspective entirely.

These aren’t just books — they’re like having a heart-to-heart with someone who gets it. Let’s break them down.

The Best Books on Ethical Non-Monogamy

1. The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

This book is the starting point for almost everyone exploring ENM. It’s blunt, funny, and unapologetic. The authors break down what ethical non-monogamy means and how it works without sugarcoating anything.

What stood out for me:
When they said, “Love is not a pie. There’s enough to go around.” That line hit me hard.

For so long, I thought love was finite. Like if I gave it to one person, I’d…