When Your Best Friend is Dating Your Ex: What Now?

When your best friend starts dating your ex, it feels like a betrayal. It’s confusing. It’s messy. And it hurts. Let’s figure this out together.

What Does This Mean for Your Friendship?

First, take a deep breath. This doesn’t mean your friendship is over, but it does change things.

• Why does it hurt? You shared history with your ex. Seeing them with your best friend can feel like losing control of your story.
• Feeling betrayed? It’s natural. Loyalty is a cornerstone of friendship. This situation can shake that foundation.

Here’s an example:
Imagine you’re sharing a story with someone, and midway, they rewrite the ending without telling you. That’s what this can feel like.

Is Your Anger Justified?

Short answer: Yes. But let’s unpack that.

• Boundaries feel crossed. You might feel like they broke an unspoken rule.
• Mixed emotions. You might still care about your ex, or you might not. Either way, seeing them with your friend stirs up feelings.

Quick tip: Think about what’s bothering you most. Is it the ex? Or the friend?

Confront or Stay Silent?