Are You Mothering Your Man? 9 Signs to Watch Out For

I once sat across from a friend who vented about her relationship. She said, “It feels like I’m his mom, not his girlfriend.” That stuck with me. I’ve been there, too — thinking love meant doing everything for him, even when it drained me.

If you’re wondering if you’re mothering your man, let’s talk about it. I’ll share nine clear signs to watch for, along with personal stories and insights.

1. You’re Always Cleaning Up After Him

Picture this: He leaves his socks on the floor, dishes pile up in the sink, and somehow you’re the one handling it all.

You would think, “It’s fine; I’ll just do it.” But over time, it wouldn’t be fine. You will feel resentful, like you were the maid instead of an equal partner.

A healthy relationship involves sharing responsibilities. Studies show that couples who divide chores fairly have stronger bonds and better communication. If you’re always picking up the slack, it’s time to address it.

2. You Manage His Life

Does this sound familiar?

• “Did you pay that bill?”
• “Don’t forget your doctor’s appointment.”
• “Let me book your flight.”