Are You a Demiromantic? : Loving Slowly but Deeply

When I first heard the term demiromantic, I thought, “What does that even mean?” If you’re reading this, maybe you’re asking the same question. Let me share my story. Maybe you’ll see yourself in it, or maybe you’ll walk away with a better understanding of how others experience love.

What Is Demiromantic?

Let’s start simple. Demiromantic means you don’t feel romantic attraction to someone unless you’ve built a deep emotional bond with them.

This isn’t about physical attraction or friendship — it’s about that spark people call romance.

For demiromantics, the spark doesn’t light up right away.

“Why Don’t You Date More?”

People asked me this all the time in my 20s.

I’d sit there, awkwardly laughing, trying to explain.

But how do you tell someone, I just don’t feel it?

Dating apps felt like a nightmare. Swiping through profiles, chatting with strangers, it all seemed… disconnected. I wasn’t lazy. I wasn’t picky. I just needed more.

The Lightbulb Moment

I stumbled across a video one night. Someone was describing their experience as a demiromantic. As they spoke, it…