10 Signs You Are Wasting Your Time Trying to Get Your Ex Back

Getting your ex back. It’s a thought that’s crossed almost everyone’s mind after a breakup. You think, “If I just fix one or two things, we’ll be back to good.” But sometimes, no matter what you do, that ship has sailed.

Here’s the thing — clinging to what’s gone might be stopping you from seeing what’s ahead.

Let’s talk about the 10 clear signs you’re spinning your wheels, wasting time, and missing out by trying to get your ex back.

1. You’re the Only One Reaching Out

When you’re the only one sending texts, calling, or reaching out — that’s a red flag. Relationships work when two people want the same thing. If your ex isn’t responding or putting in any effort to talk, chances are they’ve moved on.

Example: Imagine you’re standing on a seesaw alone. Doesn’t work, right? Relationships are like that — they need two to make it balance.

2. They’re Already Seeing Someone Else

They’re back out there, dating or even in a new relationship. If they’ve jumped into something new, that says they’re ready to explore other connections. This isn’t easy to hear, but chasing someone who’s with someone else is chasing a fantasy.